When I was dating Thatboy I had an epiphany related to our relationship. A moment where I just knew I loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.
I didn't have any of those kind of feelings about having a baby. No bright light moments of realization. No "knowing." Don't get my wrong, that biological clock thing is no joke.
But just because your body is saying "hey, you should start thinking about kids" doesn't mean you're actually ready.
There are some who say you're never ready to have kids. That you're never secure enough in finances, relationships, jobs. These people will tell you to just go for it. In my opinion, being "ready" is more psychological than anything else. I mean, of course it's important to be able to financially support your future family, but the real question is, are you ready to change your life? Because having kids means that for a long time there will be no more leisurely strolls through the mall. No more spontaneous weekends away. No more sleeping all day Sunday, waking only to spend the day in bed.
I was less concerned about me than I was about Thatboy with the being ready thing. I'm fairly selfless as it is, usually bending my wants to those around me. But it was important to me that Thatboy wouldn't resent the new addition in our lives. The new addition that would mean less going out to restaurants and movies. Less traveling worldwide for a bit. Less sleep.
But going back to my first sentence, even thinking we were ready didn't prepare us for how many sacrifices you make as a parent. Little things you don't think about, like sleeping in, or being able to stop at the store on the way home from work. So how do you know you're ready to be a parent? About the same time you realize you're ready to make big sacrifices, without even knowing what they are.