Monday, May 18, 2009

What dreams may come

Thatdad's latest book was just released. As usual, the publishers sent us a box. My favorite part of my dad's publications was always searching for myself somewhere in the book, since he loved to include stories of Thatbrother and I. This one is a latest edition of an earlier work, so I already know exactly where (what I lovingly refer to as) "my chapter" lies. Instead, I turned to the acknowledgements, which don't remain exact throughout the editions.

It was like reading a message from him, from wherever he is now. Obviously it was written long before he died, but reading about how the support of his family helped him survive his heart attack and quadruple bypass all those years ago seemed almost prophetic and dissolved me into a mess of tears. I cried on Thatboy's shoulder - "it's not true, because he didn't...he didn't survive." But Thatboy reminded me that he did survive his first heart attack, and he did survive the bypass. And now it's the same family support that will allow each of us remaining to survive. Because really, that's what his message was to us - that we will survive.

Given all that, it is no surprise that lately I've been dreaming of Thatdad. The setting is always fairly mundane, a soccer game, a vacation, an open house - and his presence there is unremarkable. Except for the fact, even in the dream I'm semi-conscious that there's something not quite right. There is usually some discussion about recooperation, or running into someone who "hasn't heard the news" as though death were just another form of illness, or as though he was recovering from some surgery. I wake up feeling sad and reflective.

This weekend was mostly filled with non-stop errands. One of those weekends where we hit the ground running around 7 and don't get home till about 12 hours later. We did take a break so Thatboy could see Star Trek since he was such a good sport about not going to see it opening weekend. I'm not as familiar with the orignal, having grown up a "Next Generation" kid, but I thought the movie was phenomenal. Very fun, and unlike the current movie trend, not too long. I loved how J.J. Abrams got a little time travel in there too. I was definitely expecting a couple of the survivors of Oceanic 815 to show up on the bridge. I think the man's a bit obsessed. If anyone's going to build a time machine, I'd put my money on him.

We also hit up the farmer's market that's a block or two from Thatmom's house. It's one of my favorites because of the size and the variety of stuff you can get there - everything from sausages to oil paintings. We stocked up on an obscene about of berries, kettle corn, produce for dinner, as well as a gift for Thatnephew who has a birthday next month.




It's been two weeks since we've had it last, so Thatmom requested her favorite chicken dish for dinner. We picked up some fresh corn from the market which I coated in some cilantro lime butter I whipped up and then grilled. And of course, I made enough for leftovers - someone has to keep Thatmom eating during the week and it certainly isn't going to be That"I eat beans straight out of the can for dinner"brother.

8 comments:

  1. I would've cried reading that, too.

    I love the intro pic of thatboy and thatdog.

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  2. I didn't know Thatdad was a writer. JJ Abrams is my hero.

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  3. Please, please bring me to a market like that!!! We have a few in the whole of SA, but it is SO expensive that you cannot eat from there!! Love the cilantro lime on the corn!!

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  4. I didn't know ThatDad was a writer either. How lucky for you to have his words written down forever.

    I am sooo jealous of your farmers' market! We have nothing like that.

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  5. Wonderful to get something from your Dad even though he is gone. I got a thank you note from my grandmother in the mail after she had died. It was hand written and she had sent us all one separately. She said how much she loved me and was proud of me. I still have it and like you feel that we can survive. A little bruised and sad but we will survive somehow.

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  6. I remember your dad putting you both in the books. When we were kids I remember thinking it was awesome there were pics of you two in the books. What did the acknowledgement say. I'm glad he got to finish the book, prob made him happy. Sad he never got to see it

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  7. i have the biggest goosebumps after reading the first couple of paragraphs. what a lovely way to keep a little bit of thatdad with you all the time.

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  8. I didn't know your dad was a writer. I would have been in tears as well. {{hugs}}

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